Thursday, August 7, 2008

Relationship addiction

I was watching the wonderful show Dharma And Greg, an episode where Greg is going away for the first time since they got married. And Dharma freaks out, she really doesn't want him to go, and when she's alone in the double bed, she gets the dogs to get into it to fill the empty space.

And it hit me: having to have a relationship is just another addiction. It's comfort. Distracts from the pain/Guilt.

4 comments:

marian said...

So true. Realizing that I didn't necessarily NEED to be in a relationship was a huge turning point for me. Huge. I remember very clearly when it first occurred to me to examine that belief and entertain the thought that it might not be true.

Lately I have been seeing the pain of loneliness in someone very close to me and it's hard to watch--but it's something we all have to go through at some point.

eolake said...

Yes, I think so, because separation is the fundament the whole universe rests on. So if you are here but think you're not lonely, you're either delusional or have awakened and are on your way out.

Oliver said...

I think it's a great challenge in our society to not to be in a (special love) relationship if guided not to be in one.

On the other hand do I like the idea of being in a special love (and sexual )relationship that is mutually translated into a holy relationship offering "endless forgiveness lessons" as the Course states. According to the Course unfortunately a rare constellation...

eolake said...

A challenge, perhaps, but it need not be great. I'm celibate and have been for most of my life. No biggie.