Change your focus of perception

Perception has a focus. It is this that gives consistency to what you see. Change but this focus, and what you behold will change accordingly.
-- ACIM, lesson 181


My focus is far from perfect yet, but I have noticed with some of my friends that they talk about things which I haven't seen. Like criminals living in the neighborhood and such things. I never looked for them or thought about such, so I don't see them, so they don't exist for me. But they see bad things everywhere, many times every day. 


When I was young I had a much darker view. But I deliberately worked to change my view, and gradually it did. 

Courtesy heals

"There are ways of treating others in which only consistent courtesy, even in very little things, is offered. This is a very healing habit to acquire."

-- ACIM, urtext